One of the first rules of being a writer is to grow a thick skin.
I remember one of my first writers groups I attended. I was scared to death. Here I was sitting with people who were writing books! I'd only written a few articles.
And then the critique time started.
I had to read my offering out loud. In front of everyone.
I thought I'd cry as my voice shook over each word on the page. But the worst part came after I finished.
They didn't get it.
Thankfully, a very sweet lady reached for the copy I held in my hand and asked if she could take it home and email me some suggestions. A buoy in an ocean.
I have not forgotten both of those feelings--the let down and the gratitude. Later, after I could breathe again, I realized the other writers were trying to be helpful and as I considered some of their suggestions--they had been correct. But my skin was still a little too thin.
I think having a good critique partner or group where you can share is essential. Sure--my husband listens patiently when I make him sit still long enough and read him a page or too. "It's wonderful!" he always says--no matter what.
That's not what I need nor is it all that helpful.
But still--there is something about asking another writer to look at your work. Your masterpiece--your baby.
I'm working this week on getting my book out to my friend to read. She's an avid reader but not a writer. But she's honest. Already I feel that fear creeping through my heart--what if she hates it and I did all this work!!!